How lucky can you get?

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Posted by hanlie | Posted in By The Way... | Posted on 30-04-2009

If you’ve been reading this blog for a while you’ll know that crime is a big problem in South Africa.   We live behind bars and electric fences and have satellite tracking devices in our cars.

Just the other day an acquaintance of ours was shot in his house.  Fortunately he was only wounded, and since he’s a gun collector, managed to shoot and kill the perpetrator.  We cheer when we hear stories like that!

I may have become more complacent since moving, because we now live in a security complex.  I feel safe.  I’ve stopped compulsively checking and double checking the doors, windows and gates.  If something goes bump in the night, I figure it’s one of our cats, or even the neighbors’ cats (who love to visit).

Last week Lizana stayed with me for a few days and we had to venture into the city (Cape Town) so that she could purchase her airline tickets for her next trip.   As usual, we set off in high spirits.

We have a tradition – when she visits me we always have Oriental food.  Noodles, to be specific.  In her neck of the (back)woods they don’t have Oriental food.  So, when our breakfast smoothies wore off, we started looking for a Chinese/Thai/Korean restaurant.  Everybody we asked said we should try Long Street, so we started walking up Long Street.

We walked.  And we walked.  And then we walked some more.  After every block we’d say, “Let’s just try one more block...”

Suddenly someone shoved me as he tried to get past me.  I thought Lizana was next to me, but it was a steet kid about 15 or 16 old.

I just knew.

I felt behind me to the zipper bag on my leather backpack and yes, it was open.  My cell phone was gone.

While one kid had distracted me, another had grabbed my phone.

I spied Lizana coming up behind me (unbeknown to me, she had stopped to ask yet another person about a restaurant) and told her what had happened.  She spotted some kids disappearing around a corner and followed them, but she could only stare them down.  They saw her staring.

I knew there was no point in getting upset.  When I bought that backpack (for New York) my mom still said that I must not put anything valuable in the back pocket, since I wouldn’t even know if someone stole it.  Yes, Mom.

My first priority was to get to my cellular service provider to have the phone blocked.  I didn’t even think about reporting the incident to the police.  I’d been careless and these things happen all day every day across the country.  The South African public doesn’t have much confidence in the police, I’m afraid.  They’re understaffed, unmotivated and have limited resources.

We decided to turn back, since we were almost at the top of the street already and there wasn’t a chopstick in sight.

This is where the story turns bizarre…

We had just turned around when the kid who had shoved me, and a few others, approached me and asked me whether my phone had just been stolen.

I said yes.

He said that the police had caught the thief a block over and recovered my phone.

Just then a police car stopped beside us and the officer asked us if these guys were bothering us.  Lizana told him what had happened, he got on the radio and then turned to me and said, “Are you Hanlie?”

Lizana and I cracked up laughing.  I told him that I was indeed Hanlie and he said that we should go to the police station with him.  Just as well he took us there, since I would never have found it on my own!  On the way he told us that he had just stopped for a packet of chips and saw these streetkids talking to us.

I told Lizana that the police must have phoned someone on my phone to find out who I was.  I said, “As long as they didn’t phone my dad or Craig!  I’d never hear the end of it!

When we got to the police station, the detective was waiting for me in the car park with my phone.  He handed it to me and said, “Just phone Chris and tell him you’re okay.”

Chris is my dad.  They had phoned the last number dialed…  I quickly reassured him and promised to tell him the whole story later.

There were two detectives, who had been outside a suspected drug den.  The cell phone thief was so intimidated by Lizana’s stare that he inadvertently stumbled into them.  When he realized that they were policemen, he dropped the phone.  Fortunately they were quick enough to nab him and recover the phone.

He had just been released that morning for cell phone theft.  They can’t hang on to these guys because they’re kids.

I made a statement* and then one of the detectives drove us to our car.  On the way he told us that they really do feel that they’re fighting a losing battle.  Tik (the local name for crystal meth) has taken over the Western Cape.  Even the small towns.  It’s cheap, but the users still have to steal to buy it, resulting in an unstoppable tide of car break-ins, pickpocketing and all other forms of petty theft.  Not a day goes by that we don’t read in the papers about the depravity and cruelty of these addicts.  Meth really is an awful drug.  And I feel sorry for the police, who don’t have the tools or the manpower to do anything about it.

Lizana and I got the hell out of Dodge and had a very late lunch at the Chinese restaurant 2 km from my house – safe in our little corner of suburbia again.

*  While I was making the statement, Craig phoned and asked where we were.  I told him we were at the police station.  Immediately worried, he wanted to know why.  I told him that my phone had been stolen.  He was quiet for a moment and then he said, “Bullshit!  You’re talking on your phone!“  You can’t get anything past that man!

Calling all geeks

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Posted by hanlie | Posted in By The Way... | Posted on 29-04-2009

I’m not very clever with technology.  Oh, don’t get me wrong, I’ve learned a lot over the last two years through blogging, but I also know when to ask for help.

Like now.

While we were offline we bought a new desktop computer (we were previously using a laptop) with a 19 inch screen.  It’s my new baby…

What I can’t understand is why my blog theme is loading “funny” on my new screen.  My sidebar is appearing after the body of the blog, instead of next to it.  I noticed it on one of the monitors at the internet cafe as well, but not the others, although the screens were all the same size.  There is loads of space on either side…

How do I fix this?  I don’t think I should tinker with the theme itself and I’ve tried changing the screen settings (on the monitor itself), but can’t get it right.

I’m sure one of you will be able to to help me!  That’s the beauty of blogging!

Update

Problem solved!

Or rather circumvented.

The problem was IE6.  I’ve now downloaded Firefox and made it my default browser.  Everything is perfect.

Thanks for all the help and suggestions, especially Metroknow, who provided the breakthrough – all in 140 character communiques via twitter!

I’m back!

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Posted by hanlie | Posted in By The Way... | Posted on 28-04-2009

We finally have internet at home!

I have over a thousand posts in my Reader and I’ll be skimming through them in the next few days…  I don’t want to miss anything important by just deleting them.

I can’t believe I’ve got my lifeline back…  I’ve missed you all so much.

Thanks & An Update

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Posted by hanlie | Posted in My Long Walk to Health | Posted on 17-04-2009

Thank you for the great comments on my previous post!  Everyone contributed something very useful and thought-provoking.

Adoption is not an option for us…  The cut-off age is 40, as far as I know.

Having the desire for a child abate has in no way affected my commitment to becoming fertile and healthy.  This is not about giving up.  It’s about assessing where we are in our lives and seeing that it’s good, whether we have children or not.

There is always the fear that I would suck at parenting.  I’ve always felt that I was badly parented, even though my parents are good people.  My sister tries, but she’s getting it wrong in so many ways and she can’t see what it’s doing to her kids.  Craig’s nieces are absolute horrors!  My best friend, a woman wise beyond her years, is actually living with her sister and brother-in-law most of the time to teach them a better way of raising their son.

Maybe I’m just scared.  Scared of failing, scared of giving up control, scared of emotionally scarring my child.  Scared of stepping out of my comfort zone. 

There is no shame in being afraid.  I’m not losing sleep over this…

I’m not closing the door right now.  I will continue my fertililty journey / preparing for pregnancy and see what happens. 

In other news, I feel all dressed up and nowhere to go!

We have bought a brand new desktop computer, but still don’t have internet.  It could conceivably take another month!  Don’t ever complain about poor service in your First World countries again…  Here in the Third World we wrote the book!

Needless to say this has been a very frustrating period for me so far.  It has thrown me competely, with no area of my life working properly right now.  So, I have decided that the healthiest course of action is to take a break from the internet, instead of trying to cram something meaningful into a few minutes at the cyber-cafe.  I just end up feeling cheated and more frustrated.

The idea is to stop fretting about the things I CAN’T do right now – blogging and research.  For the last few weeks I have been absolutely paralysed, because one area in my life isn’t working.  Enough of that –   I can exercise and eat healthy.  I can play guitar.  I can even write.  This is not an all-or-nothing thing…

Tough lesson, but valuable.

I may still pop in from time to time.  I may even have something to say.  But for now, consider me (and the Fertile Friday posts) to be on a break.  I promise to make it a constructive break!

And when the ADSL port becomes available, you will be the first to know…  We’ll have an online house warming party!

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I may have missed the boat

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Posted by hanlie | Posted in My Long Walk to Health | Posted on 14-04-2009

I’ve always wanted to be a mommy.  For as long as I can remember.  In fact, at one time I was quite adamant that my life would not be complete unless I had a child of my own.

But lately I’m not so sure…

I like my life (especially when I have an internet connection at home, which I don’t at the moment!). I like that I can read, sleep, walk, exercise, watch a movie, eat and go places whenever I want.  We really are very comfortable in our lifestyle.  Craig is 42 and I’m 39.

I’m starting to think that having a baby would be lunacy for us! 

Maybe we’ve just been seeing too much of our nieces…  They just seem like hard work these days. 

I feel as if I’m betraying my dreams when I say that. 

Maybe I’m just going through a phase… or maybe I’ve missed that particular boat. 

Time will tell.